Can you be a good soccer player and a good person?
Bobby Warshaw wrestles with that conflict in his book, When the Dream Became Reality: The journey of a professional soccer player, and the push for meaning, purpose, and contentment.
We talk about that (around the 4:30 mark). And he responds to Yael Averbuch responding to his comment about learning to hate losing at an early age (10:05).
Two quotes from the next 20 minutes:
19:30 In the midst of a discussion on whether U.S. academy kids are coddled: “There’s no human being that came out of that Bradenton academy that was a regular person after that.”
24:50 A few thoughts on pro/rel and what it means to know other people may lose jobs if you mess up on the field. “Anybody who thinks they want to sign their team up for a relegation battle is out of their darn mind.”
Then, of interest to parents and coaches, we ask if youth sports are good for building character (31:00).
From 33:30 to 38:30-ish, we ask whether Americans' competitive drive is ruining the country, and we compare this to the Scandinavian mindset on work, sports and society. Along the way, I mention the book How the Scots Invented the Modern World, though I'm not completely sure it makes the point about guilt that I'm citing. Haven't read it in a while.
At 38:50, Bobby puts me on the spot about parenting, and I explain why I quit USA TODAY (the year is garbled -- it was 2010).
Then we talk about anger. Do women yell at each other and coaches in practice? How can Dom Kinnear be so nice to most people and then preside over a meeting in which a whiteboard was apparently broken? And we have to mention the 2007 Women's World Cup.
Apologies for some sound issues. I need to ditch my headset mic. But on the whole, this is some meaningful stuff. Enjoy.